“I wanted a perfect ending. Now I’ve learned, the hard way, that some poems don’t rhyme, and some stories don’t have a clear beginning, middle, and end. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what’s going to happen next. Delicious Ambiguity.” – Gilda Radner
We want so much to know what’s going to happen, as if knowing will make the endings less difficult, less painful.
It doesn’t.
Whether it’s the death of a loved one, a business, or a relationship, knowing the end is near makes very little difference.
Emotions will come up (they are relentless, in case you hadn’t noticed), often slowing down the healing process if we don’t give ourselves permission to feel and integrate them fully.
Therein lies the greater challenge of endings.
It’s also where ambiguity lives.
am·bi·gu·i·ty
:: doubtfulness or uncertainty of meaning or intention
We wrongly believe that feeling emotions (especially ones perceived as negative) leads to deeper pain, and we’ll do anything to avoid them.
Move on. Be positive. Count your blessings.
The platitudes we speak to avoid feeling the depth of our emotional world.
We do anything to avoid going deep, blind to the fact that the opposite is the path to freedom.
It’s said resistance is futile, and when it comes to emotions that’s true.
What you resist will persist somewhere in your mind, body, spirit.
Problems and circumstances come and go in life, but your unexpressed feelings become trapped as emotional charge, or negative energy.
It’s not a conscious action, but rather a protective instinct that does more harm than good.
In avoiding what’s perceived as negative or ending, you keep yourself stuck there, paralyzed by the unknown.
The truth I’ve discovered as I do more and more work with people in the Freedom Sessions is that acknowledging and feeling your emotions fully is what gets you through the pain and struggle with greater ease.
It’s counter-intuitive, I know.
Here’s how it works:
That emotional charge is made up of four elements:
- Images – pictures you see in your mind
- Thoughts – internal dialogue, negative chatter, the broken record of self-recrimination
- Feelings – emotions we try to suppress that return over and over
- Body sensations – physical ailments or conditions that show up as a response to the suppression
What’s the impact of all that stuck energy?
What’s the cost to your vitality and well-being in life?
For most of us it’s huge.
I recently shared my personal experience of this cost and how I found my way back to freedom.
So what to do with all these stuck and suppressed emotions?
Of course I invite you to work through the Freedom Sessions with me; until then, here are a few tips to help you begin the process on your own.
How to Clear Your Stuck Energy
1. Start with Your Body
Take a moment and notice where the stuckness shows up in your body. As soon as you tune out the external distractions and focus on your body, you will feel where it lives in most strongly within. Let yourself feel it.
2. Acknowledge Its Presence
The emotional charge you feel in your body is there for a reason. Put all your attention on it; be with it without judgement. It’s been suppressed and ignored for so long, take a moment to acknowledge its presence.
3. Magnify It
Sounds a bit crazy, but imagine feeling the pain of the emotion and then exaggerating it. Imagine you could zoom in to the very core of its existence, and then be with the initial discomfort.
THIS is the gateway to relief, and freedom.
This works so well because we go right to the root of the negative energy, that emotional charge that’s been stuck for so long, and you bypass the overactive mind that’s done its best to protect you. This results in dissolving the energetic residue in the body.
It’s not rocket science, and it’s not magic – there be no unicorns here.
It is however, simple and profound.
The good news is it’s by far the most effective work I’ve done with clients in over a decade, helping people move from stuck to free and empowered.
The bad news is you have to acknowledge you now have a choice, and you’re not a victim of circumstance. For some, that’s the biggest hurdle.
“I loved the session where I figured out why I’m here and all the false crap that triggers maladaptive or reactive behavior. It’s probably the most important chunk of information I’ve ever learned about myself because I understand myself so much better instead of simply labeling myself as wrong or bad. So much support in an atmosphere of non-judgement.” – Ellen Berg
More good news – you don’t have to do this alone.
Contact me directly if you want to explore if this is right for you.
Over to You:
Over to You:
Which of the steps feels the most challenging to you?
