It’s easy to turn your yearnings into goals.
Ever notice how quickly this leads to planning and strategizing?
Sounds like fun?
Yeah, not so much.
Slowly but surely, the meaning behind your yearnings disappears, squeezed out by the minutiae of planning and you’re left with what exactly?
Empty results.
Example: You yearn to feel connected.
You brainstorm ways to feel more connected, and suddenly, your schedule is full of commitments: networking events, social engagements, scheduled calls to connect with people you love, etc.
Do you feel more connected?
In my experience, you’re more likely to feel exhausted, and resentful of the whirlwind you created.
Now imagine you create from a different starting place – a world where you already are connected.
You don’t have to reconnect.
You only have to remember, and bring awareness back to the connection that is always there.
Let me say it again. . .
The connection is always there.
You can’t NOT be connected.
“We are all connected; To each other, biologically. To the earth, chemically. To the rest of the universe atomically.” – Neil deGrasse Tyson
The roots of a tree are there whether we see them or not; reaching deep or spreading wide – always there, always connected to the earth.
When you come from the place that we are always already connected, you open up a new view of life which then allows for a new way of being.
Instead of asking what you have to do to reconnect, ask yourself what needs to shift in you to feel your connection to the world and those around you right now.
“If we have no peace, it is because we have forgotten that we belong to each other.” – Mother Teresa
Over to You:
For the next 24 hours, notice your connection to life. Feel the already existing connection between you and every person who crosses your path.
Notice what shows up.
Notice what displaces your connection.
In becoming aware of what takes you out, you’ll also discover how to access your connection any time, anywhere.
I love this post Sandi! I am often feeling and seeing these connections…I literally wear my heart on my sleeve all the time.
Its as simple as a smile…we smile and they smile back…thats connection for you. You feel they feel it too…thats connection. Some choose not to acknowledge that connection due to their own internal conflict.
Connections make us stronger and feel deeper….
Thank you for this post….I love how its making me feel all warm and fuzzy 🙂
Much Love,
Z~
zeenatsyal I know “they” warn us against wearing our hearts on our sleeve, but that warm fuzzy feeling is hard to resist! 😉
Oh yes Sandi. The Neil deGrasse Tyson quote was just icing on my cake when I read this superb post. 😀
Hi Sandi,
“You brainstorm ways to feel more connected, and suddenly, your schedule is full of commitments: networking events, social engagements, scheduled calls to connect with people you love, etc.” …I’m with you on this bit at least. You might give ‘goals’ a bum rap however Meaningful Goals have all the good juice (even yearnings) … and if I have no ‘plan’ then I’m stuffed but I’m trying very hard to get where you’re coming from.
Best Wishes as always and…
Be good to yourself
David
ElleSommer Isn’t it an awesome quote? First time I’ve seen it and it was perfect for this post!
David Stevens Goals themselves are not inherently bad, it’s how we pursue them that takes us off course. More and more I’m learning to trust the feelings that show up as I take action on what’s important. Producing results for the sake of saying “I did it” has lost its appeal and certainly doesn’t satisfy my soul!
Hi Sandi,
Producing goals that have meaning to us is the important thing in my book & I think that’s where you’re at as well. In my opinion, if there is enough ‘meaning’ then the course to achieve them will take the right course(or seek help). Goals for goals sake & a big ‘high 5’ is probably a bit on the boring side … & I agree, has no appeal for me eitherbe good to yourself
I love the idea of dropping the frantic search for something I’ve had all along and just raising my awareness of it instead. It’s as if there is just a veil that drops over us, and we just need to lift it up to see (and feel) all that we have. This morning I experienced an amazing moment of connection with a man stocking the shelves in the grocery store. I believe he was just as startled and pleased as I was by the instant connection and recognition that we knew each other, even though we had never met. It was that “we’re all connected” kind of knowing. A moment for which to be supremely grateful. It made my day.
Carol Hess Love that snippet of connection in your day Carol! Another name for it is contact, and as you said, the veil or shrouding is a distortion. Contact is our nature, and then we cover it up. Awareness as a practice is what makes the difference, noticing when you feel connected and when you don’t. It’s not an ‘out there’ phenomenon as it always starts with where we are.