“The secret of life is to fall seven times and to get up eight times.” – Paolo Coelho
How many times have you given up after 2 or 3 falls?
What stories did you tell yourself afterwards?
What did you decide about you?
I’m guessing if it weren’t you stopping you it’d be rather entertaining, possibly mystifying but nowhere near as frustrating as it really is.
Am I right? (annoying aren’t I?)
“While you are building habits, it is 100% certain that you will be failing, not just a few times, but often.” – Julien Smith
Thing is, whether it’s starting a business, pursuing a dream or planning the next phase of your life, it’s tough to go it alone.
I know because I’ve got a pretty fierce dose of the Lone Ranger syndrome myself. It goes like this. . .
- I don’t need any help.
- I can do it myself.
- Are you suggesting I can’t?
- Watch me!
It’s a vicious cycle that can go on indefinitely and knock me out cold. Why? Because when I’m in that place, no one can contribute or offer support.
No one can make a difference and it’s painful.
“Would-be entrepreneurs who hold onto everything and try to do it all themselves usually sputter, then tumble.” – newenterprise
So the question is. . .
Who’s in your corner?
Coach. Therapist. Shaman. Astrologer. BFF. Mastermind.
Who’s there to pick you up when you fall, kick your butt when needed and love you up so you can take on the world?
“Get up, stand up, Don’t give up the fight.” – Bob Marley
I don’t care who it is, just that you have someone.
Someone who’s got your back.
Someone who’s listening for your greatness.
Someone who understands while still refusing to let you off the hook.
Because really. . .
Aren’t you tired of your face on the mat?
Over to you:
- Reality check – who’s in your corner? Tell the truth about that and take a new action!
- Tell me what you’re up to in the comments below.
I’m just super happy that I have you in my corner!
Right now I’m up to a lot of things, finishing our upcoming book, planning a small improvement for our page, a course+newsletter. Our very first paid product. Trailblazer. Coding Impossible. Things are going to get a bit crazy. 🙂
I like when things get crazy! It means you’re up to great things in life 🙂
Sandi, let me thank you from the bottom of my heart for writing this. It is a subject of paramount importance that many of us, solo business owners, are so oblivious about, until we start hating the taste and smell of that mat! I am the perfect example of what you wrote above. It would be great to see and read a continuation of the above post.
Thanks for your feedback Maz, means a lot. You and I are not alone in how many times we’ve hit the mat. The difference is that we’re willing to get up and talk about it. Telling the truth about how it’s been is important and there’s great learning there; key to how we move forward.
I can’t tell you what I’m up too, I’m supposed to be working…………:).
I’m curious enough to ask questions and have a pretty good network of friends and associates I can bounce ideas off of with questions like ‘what would you do if you were in my shoes’? Since I’m a proponent of the book “Never Eat Alone”, it try to have a least 2 of these a week.
Yay Bill! There’s a Japanese proverb that says “none of us is as smart as all of us” and that’s what I love about masterminds or networks. Also just thought of the reverse, “don’t go in your head, it’s a dark and scary neighbourhood!”
Thanks for stopping by…now get back to work 😉
It’s taken me a LONG time to learn that having a team at your back is a necessity and not a luxury or a sign of weakness. I’m still in the “baby steps” phase of building my team, but so far I’m loving the new feeling of having people around me to support me – whether that means emotionally, tactically, or professionally. Best part – I get to give back some of that support … which feels great! 🙂
That’s what I think too Jamie! It feels so damn good to be that support for others and when we don’t allow that for ourselves it’s a rip off to everyone involved. I remind myself of that when my Lone Ranger kicks in 😉
I feel like there are many people who would fulfill this role for me, but I rarely call upon them to do it. Diehard independent. Aries. Knowing those people are there for me is a support in and of itself, but of course I’d get even more out of those supportive relationships if I actually leaned on them once in a while. Thanks for a compassionate kick in the butt to remind me to start doing that more.
Diehard independant Aries. Oh my gosh Sue, I understand completely! It’s one of the things I love about our online bloggers’ group.
Even the Lone Ranger had Tonto. As a recovering Lone Ranger myself, I know my urge to go it alone is because — dare I say it? — (1) I’m a control freak and (2) I’m a perfectionist. I’m pretty sure being a control freak and a perfectionist hasn’t helped me avoid the mat. They’ve helped me hit it sooner. Ouch!
“Someone who’s listening for your greatness.” Oh, yeah, what a gift that is. That’s the best support in the world. (It’s also pretty cool to be the person listening for the greatness. Talking about being of service . . . .)
Sometimes I think the people listening for others’ greatness are the ones most likely to go it alone. Therein lies the challenge.
Oooh, that’s a good point, Sandi. I think you’re right there. (Not that I would know anything about that…) ;p
Haha, well as they say Jason…if the shoe fits 😉
That’s an excellent point, Sandi. I wonder why that is?
That’s a conversation that’s waiting to be had!
Another nail right on the head! Boy, can I EVER relate to this one… I love what Winston Churchill said, “Never, never, never give up.” Definitely easier said than done… Can I just say that I’m glad I have YOU in my corner. 🙂