No one does it alone.
It’s easy to forget that.
Maybe your past has turned into a story about why:
- you can’t or won’t ask for help
- you should suck it up and do it yourself
- you can’t trust others to be there for you
- fill in the blank. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .with whatever story is true for you.
But everyone needs help sometimes. Especially those of us who think we can go it alone.
It’s tough to talk about; God knows I don’t like admitting it.
But here’s the truth I know today. . .
No one can or should do it alone, and even the Lone Ranger had Tonto.
We’ve all got stories, plenty of them, but those stories suck the joy out of life and lead to a dark and scary neighbourhood where your lizard brain thrives.
It’s easy to hang onto the stories and forget that you have amazing people in your life. Call me Pollyanna but I am certain that you do.
People who light you up with their joy, show you the way when you feel lost and love you no matter what.
This is a love note to them.
Dear One,
Who you are is a recent gift, for which I am grateful.
Who you are gives me comfort, and like Linus with his blanket I feel safe.
Who you are is a beacon, lighting my path when I think I’m at the end.
Who you are is love in human form; remembering your hug makes me smile.
Who you are for me reminds me of who I am for others.
Some days I have to dig deep to remember you are there, nestled safe and snug in my heart.
Some days I try to avoid who you are, for your light reflects mine. . .and I can hardly be with that.
And when you, yourself, forget who you are, come to me and I will tell you. Search my heart and you will find. . .you.
You remind me that I don’t have to go it alone.
And with my whole heart I thank you.
xoS
I hate that some people truly feel alone. I want to say, “I’m here! I’m here!”
Oh Amanda, I do understand. I’ve learned though that it’s not my job to rescue those people, but rather continue to be here for them. One day, they may be ready.
Beautiful, Sandi—thank-you for the reminder. This is exactly what I’m confronted by this morning…the fact that I do pretty much everything alone, and rarely ask for help. It’s good to remember that I don’t have to go it alone…
Jase,
Who you are and what you offer is too much of a gift to keep doing it alone. This post was in part inspired by our talk. That’s who you are my friend. xoS
What a way to turn my morning around! It felt alone with few messages from the outside world, no new sales, online platforms acting hinky….
…and I let myself laugh out loud, and cry fat warm tears listening to Brene Brown’s latest Ted Talk
…and then I came here to read this post I’ve been meaning to read.
And now I just want to stay in a great big hug with Sandi and my other beautiful friends. There is so much we work on, so much work to do, so much of us that we lay bare and lift up and shine a light on and hide in our stories
and we have to remember
we are never alone.
There is joy in this web we are woven into. Thank you for shining a light on it!
Hugs and butterflies,
~Teresa~
Love it Teresa! it’s just so damn easy to feel disconnected and yet, we are all always connected. For me the key is to get out of my head so that I can see, hear and feel the amazing connections around me 🙂
Warm and fuzzy feelings.
“Some days I try to avoid who you are, for your light reflects mine. . .and I can hardly be with that.”
It’s easy to forget we aren’t alone, and it’s hard to ask for help. Thanks Sandi for the reminder that I definitely needed to hear :).
xoxo